A Season of Celebration

Each May, we take time to celebrate the accomplishments of our participants. Donned in their caps and gowns, our scholars inspire their children to one day also be college graduates. Whether they realize it or not, as each parent walks across the stage, their kids beam with pride. On June 18th, we will have our annual Graduation Celebration. As our participants receive praise for their hard work, their kids receive hats that say, “My Mom’s A Grad!”

Throughout this season of celebration, we experience a full range of emotions. Some truly never believed they could make it this far, others knew they had it in them, but each time they got up to succeed, they were kicked down again. Our graduating class is a group of overcomers. While experiencing any range of factors from homelessness, to domestic violence, to food insecurity, to a gross lack of support, these participants have worked hard in school, raised their kids, provided for their families, but most of all, they have been a role model. They have taken on challenges in order to achieve their highest quality of life. They are one step closer to their goal of self-sufficiency.

The next step for our participants? Finding a job!

If your company is hiring, please feel free to send job descriptions and where to apply to krobinson@familyscholarhouse.org. We would love to share potential opportunities with our hard-working grads!

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“Is there a minimum donation required to give?”

Last week, Family Scholar House had the privilege of sharing about our organization at the Oldham County Schools Arts Center. While there, we were able to provide information about FSH and collect donations.

A young girl, probably around 12 years old, approached the table and asked what we do. We told her about FSH. In reply, she asked, “Is there was a minimum donation required to give?”

So often, we forget how much of a difference a seemingly small contribution can make, but when we come together, a small donation can make a huge difference in the lives of many. At Family Scholar House, we are grateful for each and every donation, whether it be a single pair of shoes, a box of pencils, a piece of furniture, or an hour of your time.

We thank YOU for your ongoing support of Family Scholar House. Each dollar raised helps us reach our goal of ending the cycle of poverty through education. It allows us to provide resources and opportunities for our incredibly deserving participants.

In the case of our young friend, she gave two dollars. Two dollars of selfless giving in order to help others. Two dollars covers the cost of an after school snack for one of our kids. Two dollars covers the cost of a pack of notecards in order to help one of our scholars prepare for finals. Even two dollars can make an impact, but what made the biggest impact on us, is the generous giving of a young girl who just wanted to help.

The Importance of Health and Giving It Your All

At Family Scholar House, the very first thing is to ensure that a participant is safe and their basic needs are met. However, if those boxes are checked, is that enough to set our participants up for success?

We don’t think so.

That is why we offer a wide range of support through our Family Advocates and Academic Coaches. Because each participant is assigned to both a Family Advocate and Academic Coach, they can rest assured that there is always someone who has their back. College is not easy, raising children as a single parent is a daily challenge, but with a solid support system, grit, and determination, our participants conquer each day.

One of our participants recently said, “With support coming from every angle, there is no room for failure!” She emphasized the importance of mental health by adding you have to “give it everything you’ve got to give, but never more than what you have to give because your health is your first priority…then everything else.”

We strive to provide the absolute best support for Family Scholar House participants in every way possible. Our participant, Jasmine, said it best: “Give yourself credit, it wasn’t easy getting here!”

Today’s message is simple: take care of yourself so you can give it your all.

A LouieConnect Story

Do you know about LouieConnect? LouieConnect is user-friendly app that connects community members in need with those who can help can get their need met. If you are, or know someone who is, struggling with food insecurity, unstable housing, financial emergency, senior or veteran services, or a single parent in crisis, LouieConnect can help.
This past fall, a LouieConnect team member participated in a student resource fair at JCTC this fall. The team member noticed a young man came into the room and was going from table to table asking organizations if they had part time work for college students. They all said no, though a few offered unpaid internships.
The young man, clearly anxious, replied to everyone that he needed paid work. When he got to the LouieConnect table, the team member explained what the site did, and the young man got out his smartphone. The team member learned that the young man was a refugee from the Iraq war and a first generation college student who felt that he was not only attending school for himself, but for his whole family. In other words, there was a great deal riding on his search for a paid internship.

Before he left the room, he was on the phone making an appointment with the Kentucky Youth Career Center, thanks to the “call” feature on LouieConnect. The result of a few minutes of conversation and a couple of taps on his phone resulted in him going from anxious desperation to hope, knowing he could find a path forward for himself and keep making his family proud.
Such is the power of Louie Connect.

Growing Imagination!

The PNC Grow Up Great Initiative is an integral part of the lives of the youngest scholars at Family Scholar House–and in the Grow Up Great Imaginarium, these youngest members of the FSH family are invited to explore the world around them in all sorts of ways. Alongside of colors, shapes, transportation, feelings, music and food, children can “try on” clothing from different countries and from different community helpers. They can engage with books and items that interest them, sparking further possibility and wondering. Truly, there isn’t anywhere they cannot go in the Imaginarium! Our tremendous gratitude to all who have made this possible!

 

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The Most Important Thing…

“My dreams for the future are pretty typical. I want a good job, and I want my son to be healthy and happy. I want a house big enough for me and whoever my family may consist of at the time, and I really just want to be as healthy and happy as possible. I want to have enough money to live day to day without stress, but I don’t need the most luxurious life. I really just hope to live a fulfilled life, and I want my son to have the same thing, there’s not much more I could ask for.”

 

These are the words of Madison.

 

Like all Family Scholar House participants Madison has a story to tell. She has known difficult days, including broken relationships, abuse and housing insecurity. From the moment she knew Liam was on the way, she knew she wanted more for him, and she set about making that happen.

 

Today, Madison is an organizational communication major at Indiana University Southeast, and she and her son Liam, now almost two, live at Riverport Scholar House. They are fully engaged in life at Riverport, and Madison is learning all sorts of life skills as she creates new friendships and builds a more secure future for herself and for Liam. She credits the amazing opportunity and community at FSH with having gotten this far, but the credit is due to her as well–Madison is strong. Smart. Ready to be the best mother she can be to her son and committed to earning her degree and launching a successful career.

 

And when Madison was asked, what’s the most important thing she wants Liam to know, this was her answer:

 

“The most important thing I want for my son…is for him to know that education and a career are very important; but the most important thing in this life is to be kind. The most important thing is to care about other people, and be the best person you can be. Money and power get you nowhere, but love and selflessness will get you anywhere you want to be. As corny as this all sounds, I really think being kind is the most important thing you can be. It doesn’t matter what job you have, or where you go to school, the clothes you wear, or the nice things you own if you’re a terrible person. I just hope he learns to love himself, and to love the people around him.”

 

And so, reader…. What’s your most important thing? And how do you stay focused, like Madison does, on that thing as you live your life and build your future?

How Amazing it Feels!

An FSH Participant Story

“Someone forgot to tell me how amazing it feels to accomplish a college degree. Wow! I DID IT!”

These are the opening words to an email from an FSH participant to FSH staff following her college graduation this past December. Barbara’s email goes on to speak beautifully of the values and mission of Family Scholar House: community.

Which is to say, family.

“As I reflected all the way back to dropping out of school in the seventh grade and living on the streets of Los Angeles, I never thought that at the age of 47 I would be a college graduate. While it is true that obtaining my college degree has been the most challenging yet rewarding accomplishment I have ever experienced, it is just a true that no one person accomplishes a college degree on their own. It takes a community! A community of family, a community of friends to encourage, push and support you along the way. I am so grateful for the community that God has blessed me with through my college journey, the words thank you seem so small.”

Barbara’s words encapsulate the Family Scholar House journey at its best and brightest–a journey that no one participant makes alone, and that no staff person or volunteer works for in isolation. The choosing of “Family” in the organization’s name is intentional and vital in understanding the culture of place where folks like Barbara can walk in, determined to secure a more stable future for her family, and succeed. Not once was Barbara alone. She was, every step of the way, surrounded by chosen family.

This is Family Scholar House. Family matters. And when our families are strongest, so is our community as a whole.

Congratulations, Barbara. And thank you for sharing a bit of your story and your tremendous success with us. We’re grateful you are part of our family.

Thankful Hearts

The email came to our Chief Possibility Officer’s inbox one Thursday evening, from a Family Scholar House supporter.

The supporter wanted to express her pleasure at a call she received from a Family Scholar House participant during this year’s Thank-A-Thon.

The Thank-A-Thon is exactly what it sounds like–a phone call blitz from participants to supporters to simply say, “thank you.”

This particular call came to the supporter while she was making Sunday dinner, not a time when she would normally answer the phone. But she expressed how grateful she was to have done so, and how glad she was to be able to connect with the FSH participant. That participant and the supporter’s daughter are, as it happens, both pursuing nursing degrees, and so they were able to connect in that regard as well.

One of the gifts of Family Scholar House is the knowledge that we are, after all, not so very different. As families we want good educations for our children, warm meals with our loved ones on Sunday evenings, and the blessing of human interaction.

The expression of gratitude is important–not because it’s necessary, or a “have-to,” but precisely because of what it did here–created an opportunity for one human being to connect with another.

We come to the end of this year with thankful hearts at Family Scholar House–for our staff, our board and committee members, our volunteers and our donors, as well as our community business partners. But most of all, we are thankful for our families, and for the opportunity they give us to all be family, in whatever way we can.

‘Tis the season, right?

Shopping. Lights. Parties and presents and Hallmark movies. Cookies and candy canes. Family and friends.

For many people in Louisville, ‘tis the season to revel in the joy of shared gifts and shared lives and shared meals. And in some ways, this is as it should be. It’s a difficult time to be alive for many folks, and the world can be a scary place–and taking respite in the spirit that often comes with this holiday season is not something to be ashamed of.

Perhaps you cannot wait to gather with friends for your annual Christmas gift exchange. Perhaps your office holiday party is coming up and you have just the perfect outfit. Perhaps you and grandchildren are baking cookies together this weekend. And perhaps you have one of those mischievous little elves at home, and spend a half hour every night deciding what ruckus he will cause next and where the kiddos will find him the next morning.

Perhaps…and, if so…may you enjoy every moment, and find in your heart gratitude for the goodness of it all.

Perhaps, too, you know that at Family Scholar House, there are single parents who don’t have a family–other than the one at FSH–to go home to. Perhaps, too, you know that at FSH there are children who have not seen one of their parents in many years. Perhaps, too, you know that at FSH there are single moms and dads working so hard towards a better future for themselves and their children, and while that future their working towards is so bright, the road is often long, and the holidays can sometimes make it harder.

And perhaps…you might also consider how you can bring a bit of Christmas to a family in need. And that could be as easy as a year-end gift–of any size–to Family Scholar House.

‘Tis the season…and that also means this is not the first request for assistance or donations you will receive. The need is great across our city. But so is the compassion. And what we know at Family Scholar House is that stronger families — of any kind — secure brighter and more stable futures for all of us. Because family matters.

Thank you for being part of the Family Scholar House family. We’d be honored to receive a year-end gift from you, if you are able and so led. Gifts may be given online at www.familyscholarhouse.org, or by contacting Kellie Johnston at kjohnston@familyscholarhouse.org

From our Family here at FSH, to yours–may the joy and gratitude of the season be all of ours.

FSH was more than an apartment, more than educational support, it is community…it is family.

Our Celebration of Education Gala last week was a night to remember. As our extended FSH family joined together to support our mission and our families. We had several FSH graduates in attendance and Keneysha (FSH c/o 2012) addressed the audience as she reflected back on her time at FSH and reflected on now being able to give back to current FSH families.

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Good evening!
Where did my journey with family Scholar begin?
I think you would have to start with it’s mission to end the cycle of poverty.

I grew up in Florida to father who spent much of my childhood in prison or only saw in summers.  My Mom was a single mother who did the best she could and budgeted to the penny just so we could have the bare necessities. It can definitely be said that I grew up in poverty. I did not, however, grow up with a poverty mentality. I always wanted more!

You see, my father while in prison, earned his culinary degree and over the years worked his way from kitchen cook to executive chef. My mother moved to from entry-level secretary to administrative assistant.

In high school I read a story called Great Expectations. You’ll have to Google it! It changed my life! I knew there were and would be people along my journey that would fill the gaps my mother couldn’t, not only financially but in support and encouragement.

These lessons were important when years later I found myself a divorced single mother of 4 and 6 year old daughters and no longer able to live on Fort Knox. I put my girls in daycare for the first time in their lives, started a part-time job making $10 an hour. I  knew I didn’t simply want a job I wanted a career, so I enrolled in school. I knew I couldn’t wait on Miss Havishim to rescue me, I had to get going. 

I was nearing the end of my Associates degree at ECTC and knew it would be easier to keep the momentum and continue school at UofL where all of my credits would transfer instead of going home to Florida.

I was accepted accepted to UofL for spring semester 2010.

It pained me to think of leaving my children in Radcliff to travel an hour to school. I knew I couldn’t afford to go to school full time and afford an apartment and expenses in Louisville and I also knew It would take entirely too long to go to school part time.
I got on the phone a called UofL to ask about single family housing they did not have it but the lady on the phone said there is this one program. At that time Project Women was run out of a building on Chestnut St. It was not the FSH we know today. I called and began working the program.

One day I came to pick up Christmas items for my family and I met Jocelyn Fetalver. After she finished with what she had to do with us I grabbed my daughters close and I said see us, remember us please! A few months later I was moving into my apartment at the Louisville Scholar campus. (Yay nontraditional waiting list!) Not only did I no longer have an hour drive to school, I could walk to school!

That same spring I participated in my very first graduation ceremony at FSH and I was in awe. I had no family here in Louisville other than people that attended my church.
It was this day I learned what community and family are. Surrounding me were people giving their time, talents and resources to ensure my family had a secure place to live and the support I need to succeed. They were my Mr. & Miss. Havishims. 

People, just like you, helped me along my journey. There were tutors for my daughters, a 17 year old that taught me to play chess, cooking classes and people that thought enough to give a little extra during the holidays so that we would have presents to open.
I graduated Magna Cum Laude from the UofL in 2012 with a Bachelor in Social Work. I moved from the FSH but not from the support of the program and was able to finish my Masters in Social Work with a specialization in Marriage and Family Therapy in 2014. I was hired where I served as an intern with Centerstone and secured my first salaried position. I am now employed as a family therapist with UofL Physicians department of Psychiatry on Chestnut street where it all began.

As soon as I was able I began to adopt a family for Christmas. It has been a blessing each year to my see my initially meager budget for my adopted family grow each year. This is one of the many ways I have fulfilled my promise to give back to the place that has given me so much.  I still keep in touch with many friends I made there and most importantly the staff. Cathe fulfilled her role has “Mama Cathe” in every sense of the word. She would teach my daughters financial skills by introducing them to matched funds for their school fund raisers and support their Girl Scout cookie sales and me personally by making herself available and truly present for various needs. She reached out to me when I lost my father 2 years ago and my mother 3 months ago.

FSH was more than an apartment, more than educational support, it is community…it is family. I am thankful to serve this community by being a merchant of hope to the many patients I serve in my career.

I now volunteer my time, talents and resources as my life has been tremendously blessed. My faith and God’s favor was the constant in my life.  The same Jocelyn I met many years ago will be taking maternity leave and I will be teaching her class at University of Louisville spring 2019! My daughter Kennedi will be 16 next month and is a sophomore in high school, Nadia is 14 and is freshman. And I have been blessed with the best, my handsome husband Brandon and our 8 month old son Miles.

When I first moved to Louisville there were banners that donned the streets of downtown that said “Louisville the city of possibility,” I have found that to be so and will continue to make it so in the the lives of others. 
Thank you!